I am a doer #fact. I love nothing better than to get to the end of the day feeling like I’ve achieved and by that, I mean physically ticking tasks off my ‘to-do’ list. The downside of this drive to be ‘doing’ all the time, is that I put myself under a tremendous amount of pressure.
I naturally wake up pretty early – usually around 6am. This is usually due to the light streaming through the curtains (I am a very light sleeper!) and immediately my mind begins to buzz with all of the things I hope to do during the hours of 9 to 3 when my children are at school: change the bed sheets; walk the dog; finish the ironing; do the food shop; make some phone calls; prepare the dinner; write a blog post (actually that’s pretty high up on my list!); squeeze in coffee with a friend. An enormous list that not even Supermum could conquer!
Today I failed. I did manage to walk the dog, I did attend an appointment with my chiropractor and I arrived at Costa, only a couple of minutes late, to meet my friend. We talked, we put the world to rights, we shared the parenting struggles we are facing right now and we discussed the way in which we could be doing ‘life’ better. It was healthy and it was fun.
Then my mobile phone rang and not recognising the telephone number, I chose to ignore it. Two cups of coffee later and 30 minutes after my mobile had rung, it dawned on me that I had completely forgotten that my food delivery was due between 1 and 2pm and now I had missed it. I cut my friend off mid-flow, jumped up from my chair and raced back to the car. My heart started to pound as I quickly rang the number that I had ‘chosen’ to ignore earlier, all the while my mind racing with potential outcomes of my frivolous behaviour (told you I was hard on myself!): no tea and I have a parent’s meeting at 6pm; having to go to Tesco after picking the kids up from school and they will moan; no breakfast cereal for the morning….and so it goes on.
Of course when I arrive home and ring the Tesco phone number, they agree to me picking the order up from the shop direct. Emergency solved. I realise that although the bed sheets are still needing to be washed and the ironing needs to be finished, my food cupboards will be stocked and I have spent a valuable morning with a friend. In fact, for me, that time was well spent.
Perhaps you need to consider spending some time looking after yourself and doing something which you enjoy. As a mum, that’s just as important as making sure the washing has been done and that the dinner is on the table at 6pm (perhaps our husbands wouldn’t agree quite so heartily!). It’s healthy and it’s okay to admit that you have not ticked a thing off your ‘to do’ list today but you have ‘cut yourself some slack’ and feel so much better for it. Do it!