My middle child doesn’t really enjoy school. If you ask her, she will say that her favourite subjects are break and lunchtime. She “hates” maths and science, “sometimes likes” english and finds the boys in her class “immature and annoying.” Get the picture?!
She isn’t a natural ‘learner’, certainly not one who seems to soak up all the information like a sponge and if I’m being perfectly frank, is a little bit *whispers* lazy, when it comes to school work. I find this frustrating at times (as do her teachers) because I often look at her work, knowing that she could have done better. The bare minimum seems adequate for her but even as I type these words, I feel a bit guilty because I know that I was exactly the same at school. Perhaps that’s why it’s frustrating?
I’m being totally honest here when I say that for the first few parents evenings of her school life, I would come away disappointed. Don’t we all secretly hope that the teachers will describe our ‘little darlings’ as the most talented or intellectually gifted child they have ever seen? Or perhaps that’s just me….
Over the years I have realised that this is never going to be something that is said about my child. But that’s ok because I still look forward to every parents evening. Why? Because The Tween is a pleaser and wonderfully helpful and kind to others. At parents evening I repeatedly hear sentences such as “she’s the model pupil”, “always so helpful and willing to please”, “I know that when I give her a task she will just get on with it, without any fuss”.
And I burst with pride, ‘cos that’s my girl they’re talking about!
This year she entered secondary school and I wondered whether she would just be a ‘small fish in a big pond’, with no one really knowing who she is. It’s the academic ones that tend to stand out isn’t it? At our secondary school they have a credits and warnings system (you can probably guess how this works) and as parents we can tap into the system whenever we like, to see how our child is doing.
At the end of every term, they hold an assembly where the form and the child(ren) with the most credits are congratulated and invited on to the stage. The Tween came home on the last day of term with a certificate. She was one of only 6 children in the whole year (about 150) who had gained more than 200 credits so far this year. She seemed fairly non-plussed about the whole thing (hence the screwed up certificate
left to rot at retrieved from the bottom of her bag!) but I can’t tell you how proud I was.
Of course I would love to see a little more of this helpful, kind and ‘willing to please’ attitude at home (wouldn’t we all?) but I’m thrilled that this is the kind of behaviour she displays at school. Why am I surprised that she can’t keep it up 24/7? She’s got to let off steam somewhere and I would much rather it be at home (behind closed doors) than at school!
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