The Drama Queen has always been a home-body. At the age of 7, she responded to an after-school play date invitation with “I don’t think so, thank you”. Oh the shame! But when you have a child like this, there really is no point in pushing it – something I’ve learnt the hard way.
- We’ve experienced sleepovers that have ended with her on the doorstep at 3am, accompanied by some unsuspecting dad tasked with the job of bringing her home.
- We’ve had tears on the phone while poor Granny spends the entire night sitting bolt upright in the sitting room, keeping her company on a 24 hour sleepover….or should I say ‘wakeover’?
- We’ve endured two weeks of disturbed nights and lengthy ‘what if’ chats, prior to the year 6 residential trip.
- We’ve been at the mercy of many an anxiety-induced temper tantrum in the run up to an event that would take her away from home.
Let’s just say that it hasn’t been easy. For any of us.
Back to the suitcase…
This week, my (not so) little home-body has gone to Italy for 7 days, on the school ski trip. She left on Friday afternoon and wasn’t due to arrive until today, late afternoon.
Let’s just pause for a second…this is a remarkable achievement for her! There was a time when she wouldn’t go 24 paces from me, let alone a 24 hour drive away!
Of course it will be a challenge for her at times, but maturity is an incredible thing. At 14, she now knows (largely from experience) that the fun totally outweighs the anxiety she feels at the thought of being away from home. Every small step has led to this day and I’m so proud of her for taking the plunge.
I would by lying if I didn’t admit to the odd spat before she left. But what was once a whole 2 weeks of angry meltdowns, followed by a flat refusal to go, has turned into 24 hours of argumentative behaviour which I’ve come to accept and deal with as best we can. I know that she will have an absolute blast and so does she.
The moral of the story? Take heart my friends, these are all just phases. I promise.
PS This is the trip that her older sister went on two years ago and I didn’t hear a beep for the entire 7 days! I love that they are such individuals.