When Life Deals a Harsh Blow

You might have noticed that my blog has been pretty quiet of late. Many of you have asked if we are ok; it’s nice to know that we have been missed. For the most part, I’ve brushed it off, but when the harsh realities of life hit you square between the eyes, you need time to process it and that is what we’ve been doing this last week.

For quite some time, my eldest daughter has been struggling. It has been difficult to put my finger on how or why exactly, but I’ve felt increasingly uneasy about her wellbeing. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – a mother’s instinct is rarely wrong.

Although she was initially reluctant, I pushed for her to get some help in December of last year and she agreed to visit the GP. Sadly, with the NHS being what it is, her situation wasn’t deemed bad enough for her to receive immediate help, so we were shunted to the back of the queue, along with thousands of other adolescents (and their families) in desperate need of help.

Thankfully we were in a position to seek out a private therapist. Although wonderful…in his words he wasn’t ‘enough’ for her and on Thursday of this week, our brave girl was voluntarily admitted to a psychiatric unit to get the help that she needs. Having successfully masked anxiety for many years, the ‘powers that be’ finally heard her quiet voice that inside had been screaming all this time. 

If you’re shocked by this news then imagine how we feel – parents who have done everything we can to support our determined, strong, high-achieving, energetic daughter. We have spent hours agonising over where we went wrong, what we missed and the reasons why this has happened to her. It’s taken us a while, but we’ve now realised that depression does not discriminate when choosing its victims. There are no simple answers to the ‘whys’ right now and there probably never will be.

On Monday, she was offered the choice of trying to tackle it at home, surrounded by her family and with the help of medication, or in a hospital that will offer her 24-hour safety and all the psychiatric support that she needs. Despite knowing that she may not be able to take the GCSEs that she has worked so hard for, that she will not be attending her Year 11 Prom and will definitely forgo the life-changing trip to Nepal she was due to go on in July, she opted for the latter.

When your child looks you in the eyes and says ‘you can’t help me, I need professionals’, it is soul destroying. Aren’t parents supposed to be able to do everything for their children? Protect them from any harm? We’ve been on the most horrendous journey these last seven days but have finally realised that it’s time to let go and allow the professionals to take over.

So why am I sharing this with you; many of whom are total strangers? Well firstly, because I find writing a release. Of course I need to consider my child’s feelings, but somehow I think my second reason overrides that and she would support it wholeheartedly – mental health is not taken seriously enough and the taboo surrounding it needs to be lifted.

My daughter has nothing to be ashamed of and neither do we. Depression is an illness that can attack anyone at any time. The more I’ve shared with people, the more depression sufferers have come to the fore. The success stories have been an absolute comfort and strength. I hope that one day, our story will be the same for somebody else.

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75 Comments on When Life Deals a Harsh Blow

  1. Katy (What Katy Said)
    April 30, 2016 at 1:02 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh Suzanne, I really don’t know what to say. I struggled as a teen but thankfully I was able to beat depression at home. I am so glad she has been listened to and that she is in a safe environment. Depression is awful, how incredibly brave of her to open up. You did nothing wrong, nothing at all. And the fact she opened up to you shows how much she loves you. Big hugs and strength Suzanne xxx
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  2. Misty
    April 30, 2016 at 1:03 pm (10 months ago)

    Your daughter is incredibly brave, you must be so proud of her. Please don’t be harsh on yourselves, she found her strength and courage from somewhere x

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  3. Dean of Little Steps
    April 30, 2016 at 1:15 pm (10 months ago)

    You are so right, your daughter has nothing to be ashamed of. She actually should be proud that she was brave enough to ask for help. I’m sure you know this already. Sending your lovely family positive thoughts over blogosphere. xx
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  4. Iona@redpeffer
    April 30, 2016 at 1:38 pm (10 months ago)

    Your daughter has incredible courage and some of that has to come from her parents. Speaking as a parent currently battling depression, admitting something is wrong and asking for help are 2 of the strongest things an individual can do. It took me 35 years. Your daughter has the support she needs and the love around her fundamental for happiness. I wish you all as much strength as you can muster to navigate this path.
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  5. Sharon powell
    April 30, 2016 at 1:48 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh goodness, I really don’t know what to say. Just sending big hugs to you all and I hope your dauggter starts to see some light very soon. You’re clearly doing what’s best for her and it’s positive that she’s able to confide in you and say she needs more help, she sounds like a very strong girl xx
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  6. Looking for Blue Sky
    April 30, 2016 at 1:52 pm (10 months ago)

    That your daughter felt able to talk to you and tell you what she needed and felt that she would be listened to and not judged speaks volumes for how amazing you have been as parents.

    It’s fantastic that you are writing about this – it is far more common that people realise, but most don’t say anything.

    Very best wishes to you all xxx
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  7. Louise
    April 30, 2016 at 1:54 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh gosh I had been wondering if all was ok. You have a fantastic girl there and choosing to get help is a brave thing for her to do. Big hugs xxx

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  8. Kelly
    April 30, 2016 at 1:55 pm (10 months ago)

    Thank you for sharing this so candidly. I echo the other comments that she is brave and it’s likely through your love and support that she is able to see she needs help. We’ve had similar experiences and the nhs is a brick wall to getting help, unless your child has actually attempted suicide by which time the damage is deep. I pray you all heal together and that the help your daughter receives truly helps her recover x

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  9. Wave to Mummy
    April 30, 2016 at 2:21 pm (10 months ago)

    Your daughter has shown some real strength in admitting she has a problem and needs help. Sending lots of love and strength your way, what difficult times, but I hope this will be the start of a journey up away from depression. You are right, it is an illness and nothing to be ashamed of!
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  10. Izzie Anderton
    April 30, 2016 at 2:33 pm (10 months ago)

    Well done to your daughter for admitting that she had a problem and to all of you for making sure she received professional help. Admitting to depression and seeking help are two brave steps in the right direction. I hope that with the love and support of family and the medical profession your daughter feels brighter very soon. Thinking of you all x
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  11. Kriss MacDonald
    April 30, 2016 at 3:25 pm (10 months ago)

    I’m so glad to hear that your beautiful daughter is getting the help she needs. You’ll also be helping others to seek more support by writing this.
    My best wishes to you all xx

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  12. Donna
    April 30, 2016 at 5:46 pm (10 months ago)

    I’ve just sat down to comment properly, after messaging you and it’s so hard to know where to start. You know I have said so many times that you, and your family, are where I would love to be in the future. You have the most beautiful family and life and I have always thought that if I have half of that when I’m ten years older then I will have done an amazing job. Your daughter is the last person I would have expected to be in this position – from the outside looking in all of your children seem to have the best that you can give them, a privileged life and one full of love. You are right when you say that depression doesn’t discriminate and I know that you writing this will help others – other parents who look to themselves to see if they did something wrong (they didn’t, and neither did you). But I know that this will stay with me. It’s burst that little bubble I had and I know, now, that even if we give the children everything, even if we are so close and so happy, things can still happen that we just don’t expect and that we, as a family, are not enough to deal with. I wish, wish that I could say something to help. It must be awful having her away from you, but I am sure she is in the right place and I really hope, that in time, she gets better. Lots of love to you and your beautiful family Suzanne x
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  13. Tricia cooper
    April 30, 2016 at 6:28 pm (10 months ago)

    SUZANNE AM REALLY SAD TO HEAR THIS ONLY thing I can do is pray.you and Jeff are fantastic parents, no way can you blame yourself. Will be praying like mad for total healing

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  14. Nikki Thomas
    April 30, 2016 at 6:39 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh Suzanne I am so sorry to read this and your comment on my recent post makes sense now. Mental health care in young people is desperately poor and I know that the services are stretched but it really should be a priority because our children should have to wait for help. Sending a huge amount of love as I can imagine what you must be feeling but it is in no way your fault, I think life is extremely tough for our kids as they head through the teen years and they all need a lot more support and less stress. Stay strong and I hope she gets the help she needs

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  15. Fiona
    April 30, 2016 at 7:29 pm (10 months ago)

    Suzanne, I absolutely love your blog. Like all blogs that I love I find myself emotionally invested in them. So I just wanted to leave a rare comment to say I wish you and your family lots of love and strength through these tough times. You and your daughter have already shown strength by the steps you have taken. What a mature approach your daughter has taken, I applaud her bravery and I really hope like her family that her friends help her through this time as well.
    Best wishes to you. I think you’re incredible for sharing this journey and helping to raise awareness. Hugs to you all xx

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  16. Jane
    April 30, 2016 at 9:03 pm (10 months ago)

    All the others articulate it better than I.

    But much love x x

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  17. Life at the Little Wood
    April 30, 2016 at 9:21 pm (10 months ago)

    Suzanne my love, I’ve been thinking of you all and saying little prayers too. Your little girl is so brave, and a total inspiration to so many who are in similar situations. Huge hugs to you lovely. I know you must be feeling every second of this. I’m hoping and praying that brighter days are just around the corner xx
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  18. Notmyyearoff
    April 30, 2016 at 9:41 pm (10 months ago)

    I’m so sorry you’re going through this but you are such wonderful parents and well done to your very brave daughter too. My husbands best friends struggled for years and years by himself and didn’t tell anyone about it. It is not an easy thing at all to admit to. I hope you are all ok and I am thinking of you lots xx
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  19. Nellie
    April 30, 2016 at 9:49 pm (10 months ago)

    parenting and being an adult is so hard, pop round anytime. I can appreciate everything you’ve written xx

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  20. Sarah MumofThree World
    April 30, 2016 at 10:07 pm (10 months ago)

    I’m so sorry to read this. I feel heartbroken for you all. I can’t imagine what you have been going through over the last weeks and months. You have done a brave thing in sharing this post and I really hope it helps others going through difficult situations and can encourage them to seek help.
    I’m so glad your daughter is in a safe place where she can heal and I know you will all stay strong for her. x
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  21. Michelle Twin Mum
    April 30, 2016 at 10:17 pm (10 months ago)

    Keeping it real Suzanne, well done for sharing. Praying hard for your beautiful daughter and strength for you too. Mich x
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  22. Sue Wenham
    April 30, 2016 at 10:18 pm (10 months ago)

    She is amazingly confident to have been so clear about was was wrong. It took me until my 30s, I take my hat off to her. I have too much to say about depression that kicked in at 17 years old. But it WILL get better. It may never quite go entirely away but it WILL get better . Lots of love to you all X

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  23. Sue
    April 30, 2016 at 10:44 pm (10 months ago)

    What a beautiful brave daughter you have. As someone who has been there myself and also has a child who has been there please ask if I can be of any help or just need someone to talk to

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  24. Margot
    April 30, 2016 at 10:55 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh Suzanne, I read this and just felt for you. So hard for all of you. I am thinking of you and hope that the days get easier for you and for your wonderfully brave girl. xx
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  25. Hannah brooker
    April 30, 2016 at 11:28 pm (10 months ago)

    Sending all my love and prayers to your daughter and all of your family. I am so pleased you have realised this was not your fault, please know you have done the right thing you are doing everything you can you are protecting.
    When I was 13 I started to self harm, I didn’t stop until I was 22 and I could never tell my parents, in that time I also suffered an eating problem I was very much alone. You must be wonderful parents to see the changes, to get her help and yes, there is light at the end and she will so get there lots of love and strength to you all but especially to your beautiful daughter xx

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  26. Plutonium Sox
    April 30, 2016 at 11:33 pm (10 months ago)

    Thank you for sharing this, it is so important to raise awareness. I’m so sorry you’re all going through such a difficult time. Your daughter sounds incredibly mature and sensible in the decision she has made. Lots of love to you all.
    Nat.x
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  27. Laura @ Little Ladies Big World
    April 30, 2016 at 11:59 pm (10 months ago)

    Your daughter may be struggling right now but is so very brave, mature and she has the strength to accept help. You have helped her so much. It’s understandable to question and I think as parents we always will, sometimes though we forget to praise ourselves for the good (even within the not so good). Sending love to you all and I hope that you gain the help that you need as a family xx
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  28. Emma T
    May 1, 2016 at 7:58 am (10 months ago)

    My thoughts go out to your daughter,you and the rest of your family. You’ve always been a close family and it’s a credit that she’s been able to share her worries and you’ve know to pick up something was wrong. What a brave decision to make especially at this point in her life and I really hope for all of you that she’s able to come through this and get onto a more stable positive level with the professional help.

    I agree I’m sure many others reading this especially those who maybe have a niggle about the child or who knows they need to make a difficult decision like this, will find it valuable help

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  29. Our Cherry Tree
    May 1, 2016 at 8:24 am (10 months ago)

    Wow, this is such a brave post and I really admire you for sharing it in the midst of a terrible time for you as a family. Your daughter is just as brave for seeking help and I’m sure that you’ll all pull through – I pray that it is soon. x
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  30. Emily Jane Clark
    May 1, 2016 at 8:57 am (10 months ago)

    Oh my so sorry to hear about your daughter. So young to have to deal with this but she sounds like she is one strong girl. I really feel for you and your family. So brave and awesome of you to share this story. Talking about it is the only way to remove the stigma. Hope she gets well soon.xx

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  31. Mummy Tries
    May 1, 2016 at 2:13 pm (10 months ago)

    Tears in my eyes reading this hon. Your daughter is incredible for recognising what she needs at such a young age. She will get through this, you all will. Take care of your lovely family xxx
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  32. Sara | mumturnedmom
    May 1, 2016 at 5:10 pm (10 months ago)

    Suzanne, I am so sorry to read this. Your daughter is incredibly brave to have recognized that she needed help, and to have sought it out. It is a testament to you as parents that she felt able to do this. She is in the right place, and you are all in my thoughts. Sending love x
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  33. Verily Victoria Vocalises
    May 1, 2016 at 8:55 pm (10 months ago)

    I am so very sorry that I have only just seen and read this. I have always considered you one of the best parents, best mothers out there. Your daughter has certainly taken a big, brave bold move in realising that she needs helps and that, to me, is where your success as a parent comes in. You are so right about depression not discriminating. My brother suffered with it terribly last year and the year before and he sought help. There is no doubt in my mind that you will all get through this difficult time and come through it stronger. I am thinking of you and your family and sending you my prayers. Lots of love xxx
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  34. Judith
    May 2, 2016 at 8:28 am (10 months ago)

    Suzanne, I am praying for you in this tough time. Even out of this dark time, I trust he will create something glorious for you. xxxx
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  35. Kara
    May 2, 2016 at 9:10 am (10 months ago)

    I am so sorry to read this Suzanne and send all my love and support to you all at such a difficult time. She is a very brave young lady and I am glad she is getting the support she needs. I suffered depression as a teen and a young adult and I got through it and am out the otherside so it can be done and she has a loving family to support her xxx
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  36. EssexKate
    May 2, 2016 at 10:14 am (10 months ago)

    Your daughter is being so brave. Her courage and recognising what she needs means she has what it takes to fight this. I’ve have depression for at least 25 years, my thoughts are with you x
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  37. TheBoyandMe
    May 2, 2016 at 10:14 am (10 months ago)

    Chick, I’ve got no wise words or soothsayer prophecies to offer, but I have my support. Your reasons for posting are spot on, mental health needs more publicity and it’s good to read from the parents’ perspective.

    Big love to you.
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  38. Jacq Watkins
    May 2, 2016 at 10:23 am (10 months ago)

    You are doing the right thing but I can only imagine how bad it feels.
    Thank you for sharing. You are right, there is no shame in what has happened to your family.
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  39. Maggie
    May 2, 2016 at 11:52 am (10 months ago)

    Suzanne, just to say I’m thinking of you. R suffered from depression last year but thankfully got help and got through it. You are both incredibly brave. Stay strong. xxx

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  40. Fridgesays
    May 2, 2016 at 1:04 pm (10 months ago)

    I love the quote you ended with, and you’re right – it isn’t the end x sending love,
    Laughter and shall RT and share like mad

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  41. Amy
    May 2, 2016 at 10:23 pm (10 months ago)

    I’m sorry that you are going through this. It was very brave of your daughter to admit that she needed help. And you’re right, a mother’s instincts are rarely wrong. Mental health does need its stigma removed. Thank you for sharing and helping it move in that direction.

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  42. Eileen Stuart
    May 2, 2016 at 11:18 pm (10 months ago)

    Your daughter said very brave, and the love and support you’ve given her has obviously helped her come to what must have been, a difficult decision..
    There is such a huge gap in knowledge and access to MH teams and help. GPs just don’t have the expertise to recognise or refer. I hope she gets all the help and support she needs, and recovers well. And you too, so important to support the family as well. Thank you for sharing

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  43. teacuptoria
    May 3, 2016 at 11:35 am (10 months ago)

    Oh Suzanne my heart goes out to you. I saw that article you shared on facebook and forwarded to my husband to confirm that we have been doing the right thing booking my 10 year old in with a private counsellor. He was reluctant to spend the money and doesn’t believe in ‘all that kind of thing’. It’s easy to have that opinion when you have no experience of mental health. My mum suffers from depression and anxiety. I suffer from stress and anxiety so I think my son is probably pre-disposed to it. I know how hard it can be to live with. You feel so powerless as a parent. I am determined to give him early intervention to give him the tools to deal with it, provide people to help whenever he needs it and to learn to talk and share his problems. I truly hope your gorgeous daughter makes a good recovery. Sending you so much love and positive thoughts. You’ll get through this. xxx

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  44. Tim
    May 3, 2016 at 5:35 pm (10 months ago)

    How brsve of both of you to confront the reality and be so open and positive about it. I can’t even begin to imagine how difficult this is to deal with but as long as you continue to provide love and support you have not failed as a parent – quite the opposite.

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  45. Fionnuala Three Sons Later
    May 4, 2016 at 5:40 am (10 months ago)

    My dear Suzanne,
    This must be an incredibly hard time for you, and for your daughter. Be glad that she is strong enough to know where she needs to be and what is best for herself at the moment. My thoughts are with you all.
    #thetruthabout

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  46. claire
    May 4, 2016 at 9:18 am (10 months ago)

    Suzanne, my heart goes out to you and your family. Such courage and strength of character. Would you mind if I shared your post with mums in my world? I offer workshops to mums with pre-teen daughters, trying to raise their awareness of the pressures that young girls are facing, with a view to building self-esteem, resilience and body confidence. Our youngsters are growing up in a very different world today and we have to do everything we can to raise awareness and support them. I wish you and your family well, keep strong! x

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  47. Jenny Flintoft
    May 4, 2016 at 4:15 pm (10 months ago)

    Suzanne, I am so grateful to you for posting this. I’m thankful that your daughter has you as a Mum who gets her and can surround her with the love and compassion she dearly needs. I’m encouraged by your daughter’s decision making and discernment on what is right for her, right now. I believe that many, MANY opportunities will come her way to see the world and have lots of different glorious experiences, when SHE is ready. The world is waiting for her. There’s no rush for her to meet it just yet. May she have all the time and space she needs to heal – and for you and the rest of the family, love to you, too. For continued strength and love as you support her through it all. Much, much love xx

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  48. Justsayingmum
    May 4, 2016 at 4:33 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh this was so desperately sad to read but you are amazing parents to seek help as is your little girl – so brave of her to realise her limits. I can not imagine what you are going through and I can only offer my support and words to hope that with little baby steps you get there together and are back as a family again soon. There is so much pressure on children these days it is so hard for them. Wishing your little one so much better soon x

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  49. Siobhan (Everyone Else is Normal)
    May 4, 2016 at 8:20 pm (10 months ago)

    I’m so proud of you for writing this, Suzanne. Such a hard post to write, yet so important. You’ve brought something that is too often kept in the dark into the light. Well done a hundred times. Big hugs and continued prayers and thoughts for each of the 5 of you. Sx

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  50. Jo Sandelson
    May 6, 2016 at 2:39 pm (10 months ago)

    I’m so sad for you all to hear this. The whole family must be deeply affected not least her siblings. I’m close to someone going through something similar and it’s hard for her family not knowing from one day to the next how things are. You and yours are in my prayers – Jo x

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  51. Louise
    May 6, 2016 at 6:55 pm (10 months ago)

    This is very moving and must be so hard for all of you. I can tell from your writing what a wonderful mother you are. You will both come out of this stronger. Thinking of you x
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  52. Lorraine
    May 6, 2016 at 7:54 pm (10 months ago)

    Suzanne I’ve been pushing my teen to revise, going on about grades etc. My husband told me to stop, he is a counsellor in a children’s hospital and has seen the effects of anxiety & depression. Your daughter is not alone, and I know it’s a mixture of things that affect them, the stress on teenagers is just too much for some. She’s a brave girl you must be very proud of her, hope she is soon home. xx
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  53. Jenny @ thebrickcastle
    May 6, 2016 at 9:15 pm (10 months ago)

    That Yoda’s a clever chap, eh? There is nothing there that I don’t understand. One of our children was admitted last September and discharged in January. If there is anything you want to talk about, please come and say it. It’s a scary time, but it is not yet the end, and it will be okay xx
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  54. brummymummyof2
    May 7, 2016 at 6:07 am (10 months ago)

    Oh love. You know all my thoughts are with you. Mental health is such a hard thing to deal with but at least she is confident enough to speak to you and know that you are accepting of her and love her enough to help. Hopefully she will start to get much better soon. Lots and lots of love Em xxxxx
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  55. Siena Says
    May 7, 2016 at 6:35 am (10 months ago)

    Ah it’s hard, my anxiety started when I was 14 and 30 years ago you didn’t really talk about it. The main thing to realise is that your daughter’s depression doesn’t have any relationship to anything you have done as a parent. Some of us are just predisposed to mental health issues. I come from a very loving and secure family too.
    It does get better and I’m so glad she is getting the help she needs. And yes mental health in children and young people is terribly neglected (in adults too)
    Sending much love xx

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  56. Sam
    May 8, 2016 at 9:20 pm (10 months ago)

    Wow – all the things your daughter is giving up – she must have such a powerful self-knowledge of exactly what she needs right now and by the sounds of it she is a really strong person but as you say, depression doesn’t discriminate. I know exactly what you mean about needing time to process the harsh realities of life and blogging taking a backseat. I wish your family all the very best and that your daughter benefits from receiving the kind of care she has opted for. Xx #thetruthabout
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  57. Helen Wills
    May 9, 2016 at 4:07 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh Suzanne I’ve only just seen this. I’m so sorry she (and you) has been dealing with this, but what a brave girl for facing up to it. That is testimony to what a great job her family has done so far. I really hope she sees swift improvement in her health, and that she learns to tackle this brilliantly, with your support. Thank you for speaking out about it, and thank her too for letting you. It’s no mean feat, but as you say, so important to destigmatise things so that the many many who suffer in silence feel like they can ask for help too. Good luck with the next few weeks and onwards xx
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  58. Lauranne
    May 9, 2016 at 4:13 pm (10 months ago)

    Firstly, sorry for not catching up with you sooner – life is crazy right now and although I have been thinking of you lots. I just haven’t had the chance to pop by and say hello.

    Secondly I am so sorry to hear that your daughter is going through that, although she doesn’t known me from Adam please do send her my best wishes.

    Thirdly, and most importantly. I want to say thank you both for being so brave in talking about this. Having been through some rubbish myself I think the sooner more people are willing to put their hands up and admit what is happening the better. When I broke up from OH I stopped caring what people think, I had played by the rules and been hurt and let down so why should I play by them any more. Suddenly I was more open in admitting everything from how I was feeling to how ditzy I got on my period. Amazingly I found that through being willing to bear my souls to people I learnt that a lot of my anxiety was stuff other people were feeling. Suddenly I realised I wasn’t the weak, pathetic individual I thought I was (for not being able to cope with life as well as everyone else appeared to) but I was in fact normal, everyone was stressed, everyone worries… I wish I had known that many years ago it would have saved me from a load of heartache. And that is why I want to say thank you to you and your daughter. For the two of you to not only seek the help that she needed but then to be willing to share your story – that will only help people.

    Remember crying isn’t a sign of weakness it is a sign of being strong for too long.

    Hugs to you all X
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  59. Sarah Christie
    May 16, 2016 at 10:40 pm (9 months ago)

    Oh Suzanne I have only just seen this, I am so sorry you have all been going through this, being a teen is so so tough, so much pressure is put on them from every angle. You can just tell you are amazing parents and that fact she has spoken to you speaks volumes. I so hope she starts to feel well soon, I will be thinking of you all, sending love xx
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    • Suzanne W
      May 18, 2016 at 9:18 pm (9 months ago)

      Thank you Sarah. It’s hard on all of us but at least it’s ‘out there’ now and hopefully she can get the help she needs. x

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  60. Susanne
    May 19, 2016 at 11:34 am (9 months ago)

    I’m late to this, but just wanted to say that this is such a beautifully written and honest blog post, very moving. It sounds like you are all doing the right things and your lovely daughter is very lucky to have such supportive parents in a difficult situation.

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  61. Honestmum
    May 21, 2016 at 12:53 am (9 months ago)

    I’m so sorry to read this, you have not failed in any way, your daughter feeling she could ask for help is testament to this. Sending you all love and strength x

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  62. Carolynne @ Mummy Endeavours
    May 21, 2016 at 5:48 pm (9 months ago)

    Hi Suzanne, I’m sorry I’ve been neglecting blogging for a while, life gets in the way, but I’ve just read this and didn’t want to go without leaving a comment. I’ve nothing more to add to all the other lovely comments, but just wanted to say how strong you are for sharing this and helping others in a similar position. I know depression is much more common than people realise or want to accept. And what a brave girl you have there, bless her, sending her lots of love. xx
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  63. Katie @mummydaddyme
    May 29, 2016 at 8:36 pm (9 months ago)

    Susanne I feel utterly ashamed that I had no idea about this. While reading the odd post on your blog, I knew that the teenager was having some problems but I have been fogged up in my own baby haze and I didn’t read back to see these other posts. After reading your ordinary moments post I thought I would look back. I am so sorry that I haven’t send you a message/comment/tweet to let you know I am thinking of you. I know in terms of life, we don’t know each other well, but I wanted to send you and your girl my love. You are very strong and you will get through this. You are very brave to write about this. xx

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  64. Sharon
    June 12, 2016 at 9:16 am (8 months ago)

    I just read your post Suzanne and wanted to say how well you put this into words. I so agree with your comments on mental health issues – if this was a physical illness there would be no stigma in asking for help or in being admitted to the appropriate care. We still have a long way to go but sharing this sort of story goes a long way to breaking down the taboos. Sending love and strength to you and your daughter and, yes, recovery is just as possible as it is for physical ailments. xx

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  65. tracey at Mummyshire
    June 25, 2016 at 11:18 pm (8 months ago)

    How brave and honest of you to share this post, and to open up the this topic for discussion. It’s a testimont to you that your daughter has been so honest and open with you, your relationship you should be proud of. Mental illness needs to be on the same par as a physical illness, and I hope you and your daugther get all of the help needed. It sounds like she’s a very strong young woman and has an amazing Mum behind her.

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  66. Alice Clover
    November 21, 2016 at 8:23 am (3 months ago)

    Hi Suzanne

    This debilitating disorder can make a person feel like a prisoner in their own body. I know. I’ve been there. I was living half a life, stuck in the vise-like grip of anxiety. My body was a wreck, my mind was constantly stuck in a treadmill of obsessive thoughts, and I avoided most people, places, and situations in a futile attempt to avoid my anxiety. After suffering for years, I embarked on extensive research to find therapies that worked. Panic and anxiety have no right to take over our life. We owe it to ourselves to do everything you can to heal our body, mind and spirit.

    Best of luck to you and your kids.
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